Monday, April 9, 2012

On Being Shy

I'm shy.

{via Pinterest}

I know that surprises people.  Especially because I have a blog.  But I am shy.  And awkward.  And I don't feel comfortable in most social situations.  And, yes, it is sometimes scary to hit "publish" after I write a post.  

Which is one of the reasons I started this blog.  I wanted to push myself a little.  To open up and try something that I wasn't completely comfortable doing.  

I've mentioned that one of my goals this year is to be more confident.  I don't have any idea how I'm going to accomplish this but it still seems important.  So, I decided to make it a priority this week - and at least try to make some headway.  

Why is it so important now?  Well, I have struggled with this most of my life.  I avoid parties, crowds, and even small talk with my neighbors.  I just get too nervous.

I had accepted this about myself years ago, but unfortunately, others have not.

For some reason, other people view me as unfriendly or snobby.  And that makes me a little sad.  Because I'm not.

I'm just shy.

Painfully shy.

And I want to work on being more outgoing.  

So, this week, I want to make some changes.  Try new things.  Be more confident.

I am dedicating the whole week to blog posts about this subject - and I hope that I can help some people  - and maybe even myself.

13 comments:

  1. I completely understand! I sing on stage at church and am a leader there, BUT until I feel comfortable with someone, I am shy as well...and people often think that I am snobby but I am SO not! Just shy around people I don't know. People assume that because I can sing week after week in front of hundreds of people that I can just talk to anyone...well..nope, it isn't so:)
    So I am with ya on this!

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  2. It sounds like you are describing me. I am great on paper or computer, but in real life, not so much. People think I am made and snobby as well. I am much better than I used to be, but it is a daily struggle.
    Thanks for sharing.

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  3. THANK YOU!!!! Everything you wrote is exactly how I am/feel. Verbatim.

    Thank you so very much for being honest and sharing your feelings - please know that you are not alone at all!! :)

    Jennie

    P.S. - I LOVE your blog. I stumbled upon it a couple of weeks ago, and am so very glad I did!

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  4. What a great post. I have been in your shoes and have worked hard to overcome my shyness. A part of it is still there but it I have improved greatly in the past 10 years. I think your "series" this week will help alot of people and I'll be stopping by to read more of your posts :)

    Keep up the good work,
    Shasta

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  5. Thank you for sharing your post! When I see someone I know in the grocery store, I run to another aisle and when someone calls the house - I make my husband answer it! When my neighbours are outside, I go in! But.... I can talk to strangers like anything, and they think I'm outgoing. Now why is that? I don't want people I KNOW to judge me perhaps, but people I won't see again ever - won't matter so I am free! I am not sure if this makes me shy though. Just weird! Janelle

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  6. wow i could have been the author o this blog entry. THANK YOU

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  7. I know the feeling all too well.
    The problem is that very rarely I'll feel social,
    and because I carry myself like I don't have any
    problems... people assume that when I'm being quiet
    I'm just acting like a bitch. :(

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